“Oh, it was nothing.” and other Ways to Downplay your Success

successMany of the women I know are quiet about their success and accomplishments. Ask them how they managed to pull together their company’s most profitable project in three years and I am likely to hear that it’s all in the teamwork.

Do you know women like this who feel more comfortable shining a light on others rather than speak up about their own achievements?

Success can be tricky. In the fiber art community, female artists often explain their amazing needle art expertise by pointing out that their mother, grandmother and aunts all inspired them with their simple homemaking sewing skills like sewing clothes or embroidering tea towels. I know how this works because I’ve done it myself. The real hero in our life always seems to be someone else.

American women are often raised to be polite, humble and modest, and this leads women to view accepting praise for their success as a form of bragging. Are we selling ourselves short? In order to deflect a robust statement about the value of our accomplishments, do we have to engage in a version of negative self talk? “Oh, it was nothing,” may sound humble, but does it actually undermine our confidence or demotivate our future efforts?

successI believe that all people, male or female alike, should celebrate success so that their full participation in life is acknowledged and their anticipation of future success is enjoyed! Speak up! Take Credit! Toot your horn.” Coach Georgianne Holland

Looking at feminine accomplishment and applauding it is something this old world of ours needs. And sometimes, it is an inside job. When we take the time to notice our efforts and give ourselves the positive credit we deserve, then that naturally leads to an embodied experience of joy. I predict your motivation to succeed in the future will soar! All of our awesome efforts do deserve vibrant recognition, because that, my friend, is no small thing.

As women, it’s far too much emphasis on our body image instead of our accomplishments. Billy Jean King