This thought preoccupies men and women in every social circle and city.
There are plenty of reasons why being overweight doesn’t feel good. A person with a fat body is discriminated against. Moving around and navigating your daily life is challenging when you are overweight, especially if you are trying to keep up with kids or help the elderly. When our bodies are carrying too much weight, there is pain and low energy as part of every attempt to be active. It also doesn’t feel good to be told by our doctor that if we don’t lighten up, our heart health and diabetes risks are seriously elevated. It’s not okay with me to be fat…and for many people, it’s not okay to even use the word “fat”.
Do you think it is okay to be fat? How does one measure the level of overweight that is okay? “If doctors tell you you’re obese, they’re not trying to make you feel bad. They’re using a specific medical term — obesity — to talk with you about your weight. The word “obesity” means too much body fat. It’s usually based on your body mass index (BMI), which you can check using a BMI calculator. BMI compares your weight to your height. If your BMI is 25 to 29.9, you’re overweight but not obese. A BMI of 30 or more is in the obese range.” Web MD online.
Being overweight can feel like a loss of personal power. The logic goes something like this.
If I were able to control what I eat and how active I am, I would be able to drop this weight and the pain in my knees, back and feet would go away. Then, I’d be able to hit the pavement and truly find a better job — one that is not so stressful! If I were able to get thin, I would be a success.
Do you think that there is a direct correlation between the size of our pants and the success we can experience as an adult in a world that is easier on the thin and self-empowered?
One of my favorite resources, Deepak Chopra, writes in his book, What are you Hungry For?, that becoming obsessed with the size of our body and feelings of frustration that preoccupy us about our weight, are the very reason we continue to classify ourselves as fat.
“If you stop focusing so hard on diet and calories, the story of overweight in America is the story of missed fulfillment. We have the best foods in the world at our disposal, but we gorge on the worst. We have blessed opportunities to grow and evolve, but instead we feel empty. My goal is to bring you to a state of fulfillment. Once that begins to happen, you will stop eating for the wrong reasons. The solution is simple but profound: To lose weight, every step of the way must be satisfying. You don’t have to psychoanalyze yourself; you can stop obsessing about your body and dwelling in disappointment and frustration. There is only one principle that applies: Life is about fulfillment. If your life isn’t fulfilled, your stomach can never supply what’s missing.“ Deepak Chopra
Perhaps what we should all be thinking is, “It’s not okay with me that I am unfulfilled.” What are the ways in which this statement is true for you? It may be hard to answer this question, but I have a little something that can help you figure it out. I offer you today a worksheet called Desire Your Best Life. When being fulfilled in your daily life seems like a mystery to you, this worksheet can help you to honor what is, and at the same time, embrace what can be. You can hold both of these states at the same time: Appreciation and Desire.
Here’s what I know. It matters to me that I feel empowered and self-accepting. Whatever the size of my current body, I know that the truth of who I am is powerful, capable, and thriving! And I also know that you are on the threshold of new choices and ease in living. We all are! That’s what every tomorrow is for — fresh new choices and an ease in living. I’m very happy for you!